Make space for what you want in your life

Well, I've been writing a book, and it's taken up all my time.
It's finished now though! So I should be able to make a few more
entries on the newsletter. More about the book in the next entry.

At the beginning of November 2005 a respected publisher contacted
me out of the blue and commissioned me to write a book on
'Achieving Your Goals' (I realise that after that opening
sentence, I'm going to have to work hard to re-establish rapport
with any aspiring authors, whose first thought would have been
'Lucky b*****d!').

The bad news was that because of commitments in January, I had to
complete the book by Christmas.

As it happened, I had already freed up that time to write a book.
The one I had been planning was the 'Practical EQ' book on
emotional intelligence that I have been promising myself to write
for a while now. At the last meeting of my goal-setting group
(more about goal-setting groups in a future newsletter) it became
very clear that there were not enough hours in the day to do this
and all my other goals as well, so as the book was the most
important, I cleared the decks of everything else until after
Christmas.

So, I had the space available, and I was able to get the
manuscript to the publishers on time. Incidentally, the number of
people who have said 'Wow, how did you manage it in that time?'
is beginning to make me think this was quite an achievement,
although while I was writing it I was mainly aware of how much
time I was wasting.

The book I wrote, as it turned out, was not the one I had been
planning - but I'm not complaining, because things turned out
better than I was expecting. If I had written my original book, I
would have been happy - but then I would have had to find a
publisher, something I had no clue about how to do.

This way, I have a publisher, I was paid an advance while I was
writing the book, and of course having to commit to other people
to meet the deadline provided an extra incentive on the days I
didn't feel like writing.

I have learned a few things from this experience:

Firstly, this tremendous lucky break would not have happened
unless I had made myself ready for it by clearing the time to
write a book. OK, the publishers would probably still have
contacted me, but if the time was already committed to some other
project, I could not have said yes - or at least, the lack of
enthusiasm as I thought about the hassle of making the time
available would have come across in my reply and put them off
signing me. So:

- make yourself ready for what you want, otherwise it won't
happen.

Secondly:
- when you do make yourself ready for what you want, sometimes
what you get is better than you expected!

Finally, I undertook a few assignments in 2005 that I wasn't
totally enthusiastic about - because deep down I didn't feel
ready for them. Not surprisingly, they were the ones that didn't
turn out that well. The money was pretty good, but the wear and
tear on the spirit was such that I'm going to be much more
careful about what I accept in future. By contrast, it took about
a tenth of a second to decide to accept the book commission. This
suggests that:

- if you're not 100% enthusiastic about your goal, you're not
ready for it

- so what do you need to do to make yourself ready?

© Andy Smith 2006